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Losing an unsought battle

Whenever someone asks me how many children I have, I always have to stop and think before I finally answer. As simple as the question is, it’s probably the most trivial question a person can ever ask me. I'd often say "Oh, just this one” or “just her". But sometimes I’d catch myself saying: "She's my second" or just plain "two". Not only is answering this a very difficult task for me, it’s also always a heartbreaking moment. Truth is, I should have had 2. It's just that I lost my first by stillbirth. My first daughter or at least our first offspring was a honey-moon baby. She was the fruit of our first tryst of passion as a married couple. I was 26 and my husband was 24. We both had stable jobs although we didn’t have much then. Well, we still don’t have much now.  But at least we were prepared and we were in so much anticipation. It seemed like the longest 9 months for us. We could hardly sleep during the last few days before my d...